“It’s funny that you think that because nobody thinks like you.”
This comment was made to me some time ago by a person I love very much. It stung because I felt so small. Wow, I’m alone. Nobody thinks like me. How can I relate to the world?
Hmmm… nobody thinks like me. Well, okay, really, nobody thinks exactly like anybody else I suppose, but that hurt. Few things hurt my heart more than being misunderstood. I’m aware it’s not an issue for everyone but if you’ve ever been truly misunderstood at a heart level you know how maddening it can be. Maybe you had good intentions that were misconstrued, made a comment that got taken out of context, or even displayed some inopportune body language at just the wrong moment. Whatever the case, we want to clarify. We want to be understood.
On the flip side, we can become overly certain about what someone thinks, means, or intends without really asking for the whole story. We make assumptions, throw grace out the window and dig our heels in.
When I get stuck on either side of this coin I think of the one who has been mis-quoted, mis-represented, missed altogether and certainly misunderstood. Our God.
I write this with intense reverence and realization that I am part of the problem. Sometimes we know just enough to be dangerous, don’t we? I hope and pray that anything I share, write, teach or lead will come straight from the Holy Spirit, but I know Jen sneaks in there way too often.
Lord I pray for your direction and guidance to listen well, love well, and follow your lead. I am so very sorry for all the ways you have been misrepresented and misunderstood. Thank you for understanding us, leading us and loving us. Amen
Proverbs 18:13 NLT “Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish.”